My present for you

"What's funny," he said, "is that so often people think that women are the ones to start thinking of long term plans right away in a relationship. When really, they tend to measure if the guy is long term relationship material. Whereas guys have the tendency to lose the moment entirely for the sake of planning for the future. We can get so wrapped up in the long term plan and fail to see what's right in front of us, right now. And, that's where so many of us screw up. Focusing on 'right now' is where that lasting connection happens."