While processing the latest in field work reports and sorting through a stack of mixed messages with a colleague from PM HQ, I decided it was time to re-visit the gospel of Greg Behrendt and bask in the most simple truths of masculine actions or lackthereof.
According to Greg, he's just not that into you if:
1. he's not asking you out
2. he's not calling you
3. he's not dating you
4. he's not having sex with you
Because, he says, "if a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his way."
"So what does normal look like?" I asked my cohort, needing a refresher about how clear these matters can indeed be.
Not wasting a second, she started the litany of testaments. "He wants to talk to you - for hours. He can't have enough of you. He thinks about you constantly. He admits all of this and tells you how wonderful you are. He can't wait to see you again - and asks when he can see you again - he shows up. He's continually asking you questions and wants to know more about you..." she paused. "Basically, he knows he wants you."
I smiled and was reminded that the heart doesn't talk logistics, doesn't rationalize, has its own schedule and perhaps isn't always fair. There's rarely any ambiguity about the heart's affections.
"The beginning of any relationship is that gooey-hot-chocolate-love that doesn't have a day-planner," she continued. "You want someone who's over the moon for you. There's so little hesitation in that."
But, oh - how often do we get so caught up in matters of head vs. heart? And how often do we let the head win?